I have noticed since I’ve been in world, that there seems to be an epidemic of noobs with terrible manners. And it baffles me how the men folk in the virtual world think that some of the things they say or do, are acceptable. Perfect example: I am a switch, and I sometimes prefer to be submissive and let a man take control. But if you IM me and say something along the lines of “hi slave/slut/whore” and I don’t know you from a hole in the wall, I’m going to ask you if you’ve lost your damn mind and forgot proper manners. And just as a general rule: I CANNOT STAND fake wannabe dom guys.
Virtual Etiquette Explained
Obviously, you would not walk up to a woman in real life and say something like this (unless you enjoy being knee’d in the genips), nor would you – if you were a REAL dom – immediately start calling a woman you don’t know, names. Even subs need to be courted, if you are a dom you should know this. Now there are cases where women subs get turned on by someone just calling them names. Like those into public humiliation and other very naughty types of submission I won’t mention in this blog. There’s times I like to role play that kind of thing, but if you meet me in the Enchantrix great room, chances are you will end up hanging from a virtual hook in a virtual meat freezer, or get knee’d in the genips. A simple hello, please, thank you, and other pleasantries make for a much better first impression. Which leads to my other pet peeve, which I call: “Mouseclick humpers.” They are the virtual equivalent of Glenn Quagmire and far from appealing.
Virtual Humping
Let’s move on to the only thing I abhor more than verbal rudeness: The humpers. Meaning guys that will walk right up on your avatar and start mouse humping your ass, or jump into a chair you’re sitting on without asking first. Let me ask, would you get on the F train and sit on a woman’s lap, for that matter would you just sit on any woman you don’t know or walk up and start grinding on their ass? No? Then why is this type of behavior acceptable for you in 3D? Rethink that move, buddy. If you want to talk to me, or any Mistress, or really anyone in world, having manners and being polite and not saying things like “wow! Nice tits!” will get you much farther than behaving like you’ve just discovered a woman’s anatomy. Now, if the above is not the type of behavior you’ve displayed, and you want to chat, or roleplay something kinky like tying me up and slapping my ass, I’m all for that. I love good conversation, so let’s start there and you can find me at the Empire if you’d like to learn more about what makes me tick. And just to drive this point home: If you wouldn’t do it in real life (because you’d get the hellfire slapped out of you), DON’T do it in virtual life, without permission, of course. Consider yourself schooled, and call Duchess Willow at 1-800-601-6975 if you need further instruction.
Duchess, I know what you’re talking about here, because I get it a lot, from noobs, but even from people who have been around SL long enough to know better. And the worst offenders are the ones who are told NO ahead of time and STILL do it. The great majority of residents are polite, but there’s a subset of them that must’ve been raised by a pack of hyenas (apologies to the real hyenas).
I don’t mind some touching and/or humiliation, but I at least want to get to know you beforehand.
And I know another thing, I wouldn’t want to piss you off in world! 🙂
Hallelujah , yes this is so true . I almost want to put this on my profile page Thank You
I’ll admit … the things you mention are pet peeves of mine as well. I think Jemmie might be on to something … I think most people DO know better and they just do it for the reaction … I actually asked a troll once why he left troll comments and he couldn’t really explain why except for the reaction is exciting. Sigh. I just block and move on.
Very true Olivia, some get a rise from behaving like clowns, when you ignore them it takes away their power. That’s all trolls are, annoying attention whores.
Thank you for your comments Jaded and jemmie. I was really amazed at the behaviour that men think is okay on sl, and even more recently it happened again where I had to tell someone off. Some of these people need some kind of etiquette training in real life and on second life.
Excellent post, Ms. Willow, and thank you for saying what needs to be said.
Thank you baghead boy. 🙂
Some people just simply have no “home training”. They’ve never advanced past the pigtail pulling stage, and never learned that some things simply are not ~done~.
Mostly I assume a ‘misclick’, but if they do it more than once, that means they’re clicking where they ought not put their mouse. They forget that it’s not actually a video game, that the avatars are other actual people, and so they need to use their manners.